Use your imagination until you know a gay woman well enough to open up about your own sex life and create a context in which it's appropriate. Yes, two female sexual partners may not have a penis but there are plenty of other body parts that can be used to stimulate pleasure – not to mention sex aids. When this question is directed at lesbians, it suggests that without a man to penetrate them, the sex must be somehow lacking. Common pitfalls include being over-familiar, assuming all gay people are attracted to each other and not understanding the gay or lesbian experience, says Matt Cain
